..\" have been choked in the past by someone with the intent of harming me. I was shaken and pushed back until I tripped. The way I choked my partner in the trial class was without the speed and ferocity I faced...\"
You want to learn to play the piano,so you go to a concert pianist who you see playing a very complicated piece of music.\"I want to play like that\",you say.
He starts to teach you the basic chords,& you are frustrated.\"Good piano-playing isn't like this in real life.I'd feel like a baby playing like this with someone else.\"
He replies,\"Learn the basic chords.when you can comfortably move through them;i'll introduce some interesting variations that will impress the audience.\"
Same with learning self-defense techniques.
By the way.If you are paired with another beginner,you shouldn't be flying through chokes,punchs,or throws.It isn't fair to your partner.He/she needs to develop confidence in performing basic techniques.That can't be done if your partner goes overboard in the attack.